tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post130678618120470618..comments2022-01-12T23:17:38.665-06:00Comments on Southern Mom Says: How Do I Keep My Head Above Water?Carolinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14082636213680259101noreply@blogger.comBlogger90125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-54289341587036635752012-03-08T22:36:35.162-06:002012-03-08T22:36:35.162-06:00Slow down please. You don't have to do it all....Slow down please. You don't have to do it all. And you're going to have a baby soon? You need to take it easy before the new baby comes.stacyhttp://oursafehaven.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-84719835962180840552012-03-08T22:18:57.606-06:002012-03-08T22:18:57.606-06:00My family of 7 recently moved across country to a ...My family of 7 recently moved across country to a town where we know, noone and belong to nothing! Granted after two weeks I found this very lonely, on the other side, I found that it was freeing! I didn't have to go to this or that meeting, group, study, kids practice, etc. It is giving me a chance to really choose what is important for all of us! We have always tried to stick with wholePrairie Scrapshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17051826828338254780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-62250141225274809162012-03-08T22:04:08.354-06:002012-03-08T22:04:08.354-06:00I know exactly how you feel... It's hard - rea...I know exactly how you feel... It's hard - really really hard. Sometimes I need to just shut the laptop, lay down, put on a good movie - and shut the {damn} phone off. We can't do it all - but we normally DO. Taking a break and leaving the rest for tomorrow never seems to hurt though!<br /><br />- Nicole @ MamaNYC<br />www.MamaNYC.netMamaNYC [Nicole H.]https://www.blogger.com/profile/13650311594602539618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-13766039989134020582012-03-08T19:17:44.960-06:002012-03-08T19:17:44.960-06:00I am not a mom, but I understand being overwhelmed...I am not a mom, but I understand being overwhelmed. Remembering I can only do what I can do. As long as you give your 100%, move the left over to tomorrows list.<br /><br />Stephanie<br />http://www.royalmajestea.com/blogStephaniehttp://www.royalmajestea.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-87603110633044556382012-03-08T17:36:11.483-06:002012-03-08T17:36:11.483-06:00I am a homeschooling mama of four and currently a ...I am a homeschooling mama of four and currently a temporary "single" mama as my husband and I live 1100 miles apart due to a job change for my husband. You are definitely not alone. I constantly feel inadequate or like I am doing "enough". I encourage you to 1) learn the incredibly freeing power that comes with saying "no"-sometimes we have to let go of the good to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-3260222462289018742012-03-08T08:49:45.661-06:002012-03-08T08:49:45.661-06:00Thank you Jesse :) I agree a lazy day now and then...Thank you Jesse :) I agree a lazy day now and then is wonderful! I need to build in more of these!Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082636213680259101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-15627753419226769952012-03-08T08:48:23.253-06:002012-03-08T08:48:23.253-06:00Thanks Junebug! I try and remind myself of this f...Thanks Junebug! I try and remind myself of this from time to time but sometimes there are days you just can't handle it anymore and want everything clean and in order you know!!<br /><br />But I definitely try and make sure I'm not ignoring my children in order to get things done. If anything I try and find something for them to do to "help" me if possible. SOmetimes it works, Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082636213680259101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-67056044279883558162012-03-08T08:09:58.564-06:002012-03-08T08:09:58.564-06:00Oh - I get everything done, all the time, and my h...Oh - I get everything done, all the time, and my house is perfect! :) {yeah right!}<br />As a mom of 5 - I totally understand! You are not alone!<br />One of my favorite words is one that any 2 year old can teach you to say . . . . "No!" :)<br />It truly is ok to say no. It truly is ok to have a messy house for awhile while you go out and play with the kids. It truly is ok to take Lori@Mothering Mattershttp://mothering-matters.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-30495261465936997152012-03-08T00:16:15.107-06:002012-03-08T00:16:15.107-06:00Yes, I need one of each of those!!!Yes, I need one of each of those!!!Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082636213680259101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-8259088750334962982012-03-08T00:15:27.167-06:002012-03-08T00:15:27.167-06:00I think you are further along than you give yourse...I think you are further along than you give yourself credit for. You have already learned to say no and accepted that you can't do it all. We just have to realize that no one else's expectations for us are never as high as we thing they are/never as high as the once we have for ourselves.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10617775730783047766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-82180704849238553392012-03-08T00:04:17.328-06:002012-03-08T00:04:17.328-06:00Thank you Ashley, I will have to check that book o...Thank you Ashley, I will have to check that book out. I know I've heard of it before but not read it. Thanks for the suggestion!Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082636213680259101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-15036190791510186512012-03-08T00:01:56.097-06:002012-03-08T00:01:56.097-06:00That is so true, I need to keep that thought in mi...That is so true, I need to keep that thought in mind, that they are our legacy and really the most important thing!!Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082636213680259101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-51797212708234771212012-03-07T23:59:50.285-06:002012-03-07T23:59:50.285-06:00Thank you Elizabeth!!Thank you Elizabeth!!Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082636213680259101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-50164939105382835382012-03-07T23:58:51.586-06:002012-03-07T23:58:51.586-06:00Mona, I know I get short with my hubby too and the...Mona, I know I get short with my hubby too and then feel terrible. But I explain to him my pregnancy hormones are crazy right now & are in control and not me!!! My hubby is extremely helpful though thank goodness. I wouldn't be able to make it otherwise!Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082636213680259101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-13294491099461425572012-03-07T23:51:40.429-06:002012-03-07T23:51:40.429-06:00I love your idea of scheduling my play time with t...I love your idea of scheduling my play time with the children :) I will definitely try that. It's easy to get so caught up in the daily tasks and let them play together or entertain themselves but I know what they really want is time with mommy!!Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082636213680259101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-79752526467546100462012-03-07T23:34:58.634-06:002012-03-07T23:34:58.634-06:00My heart goes out to you...been there, done that. ...My heart goes out to you...been there, done that. :)<br />Perhaps you will find that you need to step back from the volunteer activities that are not as much fun anymore...or that drain your energy too much. Also, is there a support group or a couple of good friends who could step up and give you a hand...perhaps there is a friend who LOVES house cleaning...can you barter something you LOVE to Vivian Kirkfieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16712957075467564382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-50532689547183849702012-03-07T21:11:24.235-06:002012-03-07T21:11:24.235-06:00You definitely are not alone in feeling this way. ...You definitely are not alone in feeling this way. Being a mommy is a lot of work, and it sounds like you have a very very full plate. And in regards to cleaning - I've come to the conclusion that one, I will not be getting a shedding dog every again, and that my house won't be clean as long as it is lived in :) Thanks for such a real and open post!Katy Chttp://theselfmadedesigner.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-67910831101293899172012-03-07T21:10:20.822-06:002012-03-07T21:10:20.822-06:00I feel ya! I struggle at times to keep it all tog...I feel ya! I struggle at times to keep it all together and anxiety overcomes me. But prayer and refocus on what God is calling me to do, always seems to help me. Take a deep breathe and know that you are an amazing woman and mommy!MommyMandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17980046360215672293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-26028895874202627782012-03-07T19:47:48.557-06:002012-03-07T19:47:48.557-06:00I think we place too high expectations on ourselve...I think we place too high expectations on ourselves. It's ok not to have it all together!Discovering the Me in Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00578147574815961841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-10767498461228611222012-03-07T19:17:18.150-06:002012-03-07T19:17:18.150-06:00I sometimes just take a breather and see how every...I sometimes just take a breather and see how everything can fit my schedule. There are days or times that are dedicated solely for church activities so that's easy. But what's more difficult is managing my time for blogging, chores, etc since I have a baby.isishttp://bayareamommy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-23652226967819104072012-03-07T14:46:43.915-06:002012-03-07T14:46:43.915-06:00I don't have kids, but I agree with what other...I don't have kids, but I agree with what others have said here previously. It all comes down to time management and figuring out what priorities are most important.Single Galhttp://www.singlegalscookbook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-45484821348418992712012-03-07T13:52:59.795-06:002012-03-07T13:52:59.795-06:00I'm the mom of four, most of them grown. I rem...I'm the mom of four, most of them grown. I remember feeling what you expressed so well, and I still feel that way sometimes. The best thing I learned to do was say "No." Many activities and interests we have are great, but in order to keep our sanity we just have to give things up for a while. Also ask your husband to help you figure out a livable schedule, ask for his help at Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05512195350501287945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-38746668834891256302012-03-06T23:13:24.272-06:002012-03-06T23:13:24.272-06:00I'm not a mom yet, but I can see how what I...I'm not a mom yet, but I can see how what I'm busy with now, on top of parenting would be really draining. Sorry, don't have much advice or feedback to give. I'm looking forward to parenting, even though I know it will be a lot of work.Betsy @ Romance on a Dimehttp://romanceonadime.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-69664874684191842332012-03-06T21:42:57.023-06:002012-03-06T21:42:57.023-06:00I have three kids (7, 5, 3) and I definitely don&#...I have three kids (7, 5, 3) and I definitely don't have it all together! I've noticed that when I'm really feeling that I don't have it together, I get short w/my hubby. Not really helpful, huh? My kids always come to me when they need things, so I've been trying to send them to DH sometimes (he can pour cereal while I make his breakfast).Monahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09728588471701579612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4204722394023363941.post-71592465992017886692012-03-06T20:43:23.226-06:002012-03-06T20:43:23.226-06:00What you are experiencing is common and totally no...What you are experiencing is common and totally normal. You have to learn to cut back and just say "NO" so you can be less stressed. It is hard to say the first time, then it gets easier ;)Couponista Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12616286506153096330noreply@blogger.com